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Kostya: below I'm placing some of my answers to the Love and Life questions.

1. Learning to love yourself

This issue is very close to another one -- "What to do if I don't feel love?" so please have a look at it.

Loving yourself is accepting yourself. Accepting yourself right now -- the way you are right now. If you have done something that you consider not good enough, pardon yourself for that. Smile, straighten your back and tell yourself, that you are good.
We are talking about unconditional love to yourself. Allow yourself to love yourself unconditionally.

This topic in Russian
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Tips on how to love yourself
Susan Barber on "Loving yourself"

2. What to do if I don't feel love?

(Mar 11, 2006) Kostya:

How to get to sending love?

I wrote a lot on this topic, but felt I want to do it again. And I address this short write-up to those who already know how great it is to send love, but "for some reason" you seem not to be able send love right now.

Why sometimes we can't send love? In other words, why sometimes we feel nothing when we attempt sending love? (Because before we used to feel very beautiful sensations in our body when we were sending love.)

Climbing up emotional scale

The answer is very simple: we are just too low on emotional scale to be able to feel and send love. If you feel depressed -- you can't feel love at the same time. If you are angry or blaming or even bored- you can't feel love at the same time. But if you are higher on the emotional scale, like at Optimism or at Eagerness -- then you are much closer to Love and it's much easier to feel Love and send Love.

Following emotional scale it taken from "Ask and it is given" by Esther and Jerry Hicks:

1. Joy/Knowledge/Empowerment/ Freedom/Love/Appreciation
2. Passion
3. Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness
4. Positive Expectation/Belief
5. Optimism
6. Hopefulness
7. Contentment
8. Boredom
9. Pessimism
10. Frustration/Irritation/Impatience
11. “Overwhelment”
12. Disappointment
13. Doubt
14. Worry
15. Blame
16. Discouragement
17. Anger
18. Revenge
19. Hatred/Rage
20. Jealousy
21. Insecurity/Guilt/Unworthiness
22. Fear/Grief/Depression/ Despair/Powerlessness

How you can climb up the emotional scale -- to get to the point where you again can send Love?
Abraham has some techniques in their books, like climbing the scale by feeling a higher feeling on each step up. So if one is depressed, then a step higher would be to feel let's say guilty for this depression. Next step - feel jealous for something, then hate something.

Isn't it strange to read this in a newsletter on Love? :))
I also was very surprised to find out that there is something good even in "negative" feelings like anger. And the good part in it is that it's higher than, let's say, depression!

So in this manner you can climb the ladder all the way up, where you can now send love. Imaging that! So easy!

Laughing and smiling

"The answer is -- negative blocks in your mind came up and prevent the flow of love. So you need to melt them. Smiling and laughing melts them." This is what I said before to the question: "Why sometimes we can't send love? In other words, why sometimes we feel nothing when we attempt sending love?"

Now my understanding is that continuous smiling (like for 40 days in a row) or laughing (like for 2 hours each day for 2 weeks) brings you us the emotional scale to the place where you again can feel and send love.

See other materials on this issue:

1. Klaus Joehle: "Message to the Talk Board"

An older version of the answer:

(Nov 21, 2005) Kostya:

This is a popular question on Russian forum on working with love, so I decided to post this here.

Feeling love is very natural. So if you can't feel love now (say, if you can't feel love just from placing your attention at the center of your chest) -- or if you are not sure if you are really sending love -- read on.

When your heart center is open and when you are sending love -- you will have no doubts about it because you will sense it with your body.

So if you don't feel love -- it means that there are some blocks (old fears) sitting in your subconscious and blocking the way to love. We are going to release them in very easy and natural way so that you would again be able to easily feel love.

It's an easy thing and everybody can do it, but you will need some will. All you need to do is laughing up to 2 hours a day for 3 to 7 days. This brings your mind into a happy state and melts the blocks. Also try laughing when in trouble -- see how well your mind will work!

If laughing is too hard -- smile whenever you remember about it. Same result, although laughing is supposed to work faster.

So make yourself laugh, smile and witness how your ability to feel love returns. Please post your feedback to our forum.

Other ways to feel love:
1. Imagine that you are hugging every person you see on the street. Watch your feelings. (suggested by Alyona)
2. Pet a puppy, a kitten or a dog or a cat -- or another mammal pet. Watch your feelings.
3. Hug your family members or friends. Feel -- how it feels.

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3. What if I suffer?

Transform your suffering into enjoying. Let's say one is sad. Let this person say to himself or herself "I have the best sadness in the world!" When saying this focus on words "the best in the world" -- and feel how you are beginning to enjoy it!

Enjoying creates more of it. Suffering creates more of it. So choose enjoying.

You have the Power to Enjoy everything!

Maybe it's easy to enjoy this newsletter because it's about Love. But you actually have the Power to Enjoy everything -- did you know about this? I used to have...

[My 8-months puppy fox terrier just came and put his front legs on my lap! Now he is making digging moves with his left front leg -- inviting me to play.]

... so I used to have problem with how to react to violent news on TV. No longer. I was thinking on it after listening and transcribing some of the "Money is Love" book recordings. Remember what Klaus Joehle says about playing Battlefield 1942 computer game? He enjoys it. I too -- sometimes. And he goes further -- we can see at our world as a computer game that enlightened souls play -- like we play Ultima Online. In this game we, enlightened souls take on all the different roles -- from presidents to the beggars -- just like in a computer game!

I write in my blog:

My wife Natasha is studying a teaching "Radasteya" where it's said that a soul is choosing a mother (let's say 7 years ahead of birth) and then a father (say 5 years ahead of birth). Then those choosen can't resist geting together to give birth to the child.

I though -- it could explain why the population of the developed countries is decreasing and the population of poor countries is increasing. Souls find it boring to go to the "perfectly planned" Europe. They prefer places where the action takes place -- all sorts of action. They wanna experience the life, just like Klaus Joehle writes in his book "Some Things are Worth Believing In - Money.

So when watching TV we can be just happy for those enlightened souls that found something interesting for themselves to chew on! What do you think? Tell us in our forum"On Working With Love"!

Talks with Roman who wants to learn feeling love

I still haven't so much results with love, if any... I want to have more motivation to do it, but don't know how. I don't like my job and because of it, is very hard to feel gratitude all the time. And the worst is that I don't know what kind of job I like! I'm interested in do something like playing the lottery, but maybe isn't it because I can't concentrate enough on it.

Roman from Brazil

Answer: "Seek a living Teacher!"

Kostya, May 12, 2005: I was thinking on your questions and remembered that Osho Rajneesh was always saying to his students: "Seek a living Teacher!" (Seek a Teacher that is still alive!) He was telling them to do this after his death.

Why do you need a Teacher? What kind of a Teacher do you need? You need a person more advanced spiritually than you are. A person willing to help others to advance. A person that will understand you and will show you the way to mastery.

I believe this is the best thing you can do in your situation when you have interest in developing yourself -- but have no [working for you] instruments to do so on hand. Make sure this interest stays alive -- this is very valuable thing. And focus your attention on finding a spiritual Teacher or Teachers. Look for people that inspire you, people that easily do things you want to learn. I found several Teachers in the place where I live. I learned much about myself from them -- although not as much as I should have learned. So I plan to spend more time with them.

As a Teacher I liked most Russian Sufi master Vladimir Stepanov, that lives and teaches in Holland and few times a year comes to Russia for seminars. Also I like very much Alexander Klein -- he is very inspiring person. Very attractive is Boris Zolotov, but it seems that he is not so much into teaching.

Probably there are spiritually advanced persons in where you live too. Your best bet is to look for them and becoming their student. What do you want to learn? Probably - "to be a master of yourself". Those words were said by Gurdjieff. I placed links to some of his books and books about him on the site.

Castaneda's Don Juan is another example of a spiritual Master. Pretty extreme example. Look for a teacher that will be the best for you.

Where comes Love in all this? Love helps us to get the best in everything. I found my Teachers after I began working with Love in 1998.

This advice proved to be not so helpful for Roman. After all, where is one to go to get a living teacher? :) And here comes another exchange:

Roman: I don't even like to talk about this, but...

I don't know what's wrong with me... I don't even like to talk about this, but...

I've read all Klaus books, I'm reading this new one (hoping it will work some way). I believe in all that is written, have practiced some, didn't see results...
I am always here in this forum, willing to see new posts...
But it seems that I have no energy whatsoever to just DO this, because some thing in me cut the actual action... I don't know
I know his books since 2002, I think, I don't know... What I have to do?

Kostya: feeling Love is very natural

Hi Roman! First of all thanks for raising again this important issue!
2. Let me tell you that Love Energy (and working with love) is very natural to feel and use. This means that it's natural for you too.
3. The fact that you can't use it and feel it to your satisfaction means that there is a block or several blocks in you that stop the flow of love in you. These blocks are fears. I write on Creating Abundance page:

Also a thought came to my mind that fears are but simple safe-guarding programs in our mind. Outdated programs. Now I think what Klaus Joehle does when he "creates" his money -- he is installing new programs in his mind -- programs that help him to feel wealthy, act wealthy and choose those life choices that lead to wealth.

I've heard Klaus saying something like this in his mp3 records so I think I was tuning up to his thoughts...

4. Anyway, we can say we know what is the situation -- now the question is: How to achieve what you want -- so that you will be able to easily feel love in your chest and easily work with love?
5. Contrary to what people were thinking before, effective way is NOT "working with those fears" but simply replacing them whith what you want (in our case - joy). I was writing about this in topic What to do if I don't feel love? And here is a gist:
5.1. force yourself laugh for 2 hours a day. This had helped me when I wasn't feeling love. If it's too hard for you hen
5.2. smile as much during the day as possible. All the time that you can. Preferably with a wide smile. if not possible with a light smile.
5.3. above exercises will make the blocks melt away if you do them each day for one week. Remember, you will be installing new programs in your mind.
6. Please come here each day and write a report on how you are laughing or smiling. This will give you more awareness to continue on.

Source of this talk -- thread "Help on Love!" in the Forum on working with Love

More on laughing and smiling

It becomes more and more obvious to me that smiling and laughing does from physical level "what Klaus does from the emotional level" in "Money is Love" book -- installs new mind programs, that are replacing old outdated fear programs.

Smiling and laughing is installing general use joyous programs and Klaus is installing specialized wealth and abundance programs. Although those programs work for overall joy too.

Dear R., let's keep smiling!

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